My Choice.

“My Choice………..”

                       

               Now  a days, we find the controversy of Deepika Padukone’s  vogue video  "My Choice” . Because it is said that it is based on women empowerment but the reaction of audience are totally different.  I don’t know where is the problem in film? And why people suddenly criticized Deepika Padukone more than its director – Homi Adajani?

                                     According to me , there is no any kind of controversy of video but.. “The Title” suggest something which is not actually new but it is not digested by society. After reading the article of  My “Choice” by Kajal Oza Vaidya   in ‘Madhurima’,  I get some new point for that. Our rigid and orthodox society never accept the freedom of women even in 21st  century.

         They have no any problem with video if there is no any single word represent’s women selection and any choices or free will. But when Deepika utters the words  " Its My Choice”  - it seems like atom bomb to them which is blasted everywhere.

                                    There is the problem with the word “ My” is more important than the “ Choice” because  being a women , they have no right to decide something not something but everything. Women have no right to take quick decisions and our man stream society never allow to them their freedom and never ever want to free them from the bondage and so called rituals, also.   

                         Even in their dream, they can’t think that women have equal rights and has their own life ,also. She needs someone’s support through out her life and follow his rules.  She has to live according to Father, Brother, Husband, Son, etc… and all these things happens with the name of emotions feelings and love or the name of caring…means she can’t live life as she want. She can’t do work which she want.

                        Feminist and anti- feminist both are there. I think words “ My” and “Choice” both are very opposite for women. Because in our society , there is no insight to see women as human beings. Woman  may be someone’s daughter, sister, friend, wife , she has many role but never see her as a person…..

              Being a girl , one must have to learn accept all things from the childhood. She has no selections or any choices or any options. She must accept all those things as it is. She can’t do any changes and can’t raise her voice against the whole. If she raises the voice against it , she is judged as the bad , “ Asanskari”, doesn’t has any sense and so many things…

                        All that things happens from the beginning , so there is no much surprised but sometimes it is too much suffering and painful for her. about it … Because from the beginning of earth women  are treated as inferior. Adam also treats Eve as inferior.     

      

             No, doubt, we talk about equality, educations and intelligences and so many things but when the time comes to prove , we quit. Because there is fear that …if she gets all things , what will we do ? they know that women have tremendous power  to do anything.

                       

                         Draupadi – is the best example of it. Because she has no any selection or choice after  mother Kunti’s  blessing or cruse which you want to say. and then she must live her whole life among five husbands. 

                         Just imagine that………….

“ If the words “ My Choice” is spoken by actor rather than actress , the same controversy is there?”

                       

             I think  No, because Men are always privilege over women. In our male dominance society , male always superior . They just want to take proud that they give something to women. like…… Opportunity, space , freedom ,  all those things which she want. It is given by them to her not taken from herself. Means….  She can’t select or choose something for herself.

                         We can’t live with so narrow thinking . we just show off that we are modern of 21^st century and still our minds are thinking like we are in 18^th century. We can’t progress with such thoughts. And I am not fever of women or I am not feminist also. But.. we have to think why only women are responsible for whole?

Why she is blamed every time? Do you not think both are inter-dependent?  Then why just when  women talk about freedom and all those things, our pillars of Culture and Sanskar feel the earthquake??