“My Choice………..”
Now a
days, we find the controversy of Deepika
Padukone’s vogue video "My Choice” .
Because it is said that it is based on women empowerment but the reaction of
audience are totally different. I don’t
know where is the problem in film? And why people suddenly criticized Deepika
Padukone more than its director – Homi Adajani?
According to me , there is no any kind of controversy
of video but.. “The Title” suggest something which is not actually new but it
is not digested by society. After reading the article of My “Choice” by Kajal Oza Vaidya in ‘Madhurima’, I get some new point for
that. Our rigid and orthodox society never accept the freedom of women even in 21st century.
They have no any problem with video if
there is no any single word represent’s women selection and any choices or free
will. But when Deepika utters the words " Its My Choice” - it seems like atom bomb to them which is
blasted everywhere.
There is the
problem with the word “ My” is more important than the “ Choice” because being a women , they have no right to decide
something not something but everything. Women have no right to take quick
decisions and our man stream society never allow to them their freedom and
never ever want to free them from the bondage and so called rituals, also.
Even in their dream, they can’t think that
women have equal rights and has their own life ,also. She needs someone’s
support through out her life and follow his rules. She has to live according to Father, Brother,
Husband, Son, etc… and all these things happens with the name of emotions
feelings and love or the name of caring…means she can’t live life as she want. She
can’t do work which she want.
Feminist
and anti- feminist both are there. I think words “ My” and “Choice” both are
very opposite for women. Because in our society , there is no insight to see
women as human beings. Woman may be someone’s
daughter, sister, friend, wife , she has many role but never see her as a
person…..
Being a girl , one must have to learn accept all things from the
childhood. She has no selections or any choices or any options. She must accept
all those things as it is. She can’t do any changes and can’t raise her voice
against the whole. If she raises the voice against it , she is judged as the
bad , “ Asanskari”, doesn’t has any sense and so many things…
All
that things happens from the beginning , so there is no much surprised but
sometimes it is too much suffering and painful for her. about it … Because from
the beginning of earth women are treated
as inferior. Adam also treats Eve as inferior.
No, doubt, we talk about equality, educations
and intelligences and so many things but when the time comes to prove , we
quit. Because there is fear that …if she gets all things , what will we do ?
they know that women have tremendous power to do anything.
Draupadi – is the best example of it. Because she
has no any selection or choice after mother Kunti’s
blessing or cruse which you want to say. and then she must live her
whole life among five husbands.
Just imagine that………….
“ If the words “ My Choice” is spoken
by actor rather than actress , the same controversy is there?”
I think
No, because Men are always privilege over women. In our male dominance
society , male always superior . They just want to take proud that they give
something to women. like…… Opportunity, space , freedom , all those things which she want. It is given
by them to her not taken from herself. Means…. She can’t select or choose something for
herself.
We can’t live with so narrow thinking . we
just show off that we are modern of 21st century and still our minds
are thinking like we are in 18th century. We can’t progress with
such thoughts. And I am not fever of women or I am not feminist also. But.. we
have to think why only women are responsible for whole?
Why she is
blamed every time? Do you not think both are inter-dependent? Then why just when women talk about freedom and all those things,
our pillars of Culture and Sanskar feel the earthquake??
nicely put arguments, at some level quite true, but it's not always man who wants to dominate women, many times they themselves wants to rule over each other, sometimes a girl wants to live her life as she wants but there is always a woman who denies her!! in more than 80% cases... in matter of boy his father and mother both have control over him, but it's love of mother that allows him to do what he wants.... I'm not blaming anybody but it's fact always man are not responsible for what is happening with her... actually Deepaka is also brought up in the same society in which we are living....... but what make difference is obviously her choice that is not given to her but she has taken it..
ReplyDeleteIn our culture, we find male dominant structure of society. Why so many things are imposed to them? At surface level, we find everything is good & well but it seems like show off. Why educated people also can't accept the freedom of women? I personally believe that both have their respective position in the society, then why one is so supressed? Both have equal right to select their way of life.Then, Why With the name of relationships, Cultures and Sanskar, girls are restricted ? or if she chooses her way she will be criticesd by Society? Struggle is always there for women because male dominant society don't give anything without paying coast. We need to change perspective to see.
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